12 years ago, my husband and I lost an infant daughter. A few years passed, and a well-meaning family member (who was not around at the time of our baby’s death) suggested to my husband and I, that God could bring spiritual and emotional wholeness/healing into our lives again if we would let Him.
My husband and I smiled politely and internally dismissed this family member’s view, because they didn’t really “know”. They didn’t see how deep the wound went; how life-altering the wound was. Yes, God can heal and does heal, and He gave us 3 more beautiful, healthy children and a variety of lovely “fur-babies” as well. Each baby has brought joy and hope and love into our lives, and our wounds have healed. Still, there are deep scars that cause pain from time to time. These scars are reminders of our love for our baby. They will never heal completely as if she didn’t exist, nor would we want them to. Our hearts were broken that day, we were changed forever, but it was after all, a good change, not a “good wound”.
The same can be said of others’ deep wounds. There will be scarring of the heart and mind; they will never be the same person again. Just as healing from a surgery takes time, or certain physical wounds may never fully heal, these realities do not negate God’s love, compassion, or healing abilities. We are healed, but we are scarred. That is how God built people inside and out.